Divorced parenting is sadly very much a reality in the modern world with the number of divorced parents rising every year. Although there is disagreement over the numbers, some statisticians now put the divorce rate as high as 50 percent in the United States!
Parenting is not easy at the best of times, but divorced parenting is particularly difficult and the real danger is that, if you are not careful, it is very easy to compound the inevitable damage already done to your children by the divorce itself.
Whatever the problems that have led to your decision to end your marriage and live apart from your spouse, the fact remains that you are still a parent, albeit a divorced parent, and your children will still very much need you as their parent. You will almost certainly not wish your problems with your spouse to spill over into your relationship with your children. This is another critical part of going through a divorce as a parent, because how you view and act towards your former spouse will very likely influence how your children interact with not only you and your former spouse , but everyone else they meet for the rest of their lives.
Your role will clearly change when it comes to divorced parenting but paradoxically your role as a parent remains unchanged. In essence your children still need to see you in the same role as a parent after divorce and the secret to balanced parenting is for divorced parents to put their personal problems to one side and to find a way to work together in the role of raising their children, even if they cannot work together at anything else. This is not always easy but is essential for the wellbeing of the children and, while you can divorce your spouse, you cannot divorce your children.
There are various different aspects to divorced parenting which need to be examined and we include a number of related divorce and parenting articles to help you to find your way through this particular minefield.